Communication

Well this should be an interesting one, and it deals with the wonderful gift of communication. So many people ask my wife and I why we don’t argue and we reply that its because we are so close, or that we are tuned so well together that there is no need. We have even joked that its because we don’t care about each others problems. But the simple truth is that its because we communicate.

You know that feeling you get when you sense that something is wrong with your partner. We will call it intuition, but you know what I mean. The feeling you get when a hundred little things seem different but you cant quite put your finger in what it is. Perhaps the atmosphere is not quite the same, or stress is in the air. At this point most people sill start questioning the reasons, perhaps something has happened? Perhaps ive done something wrong? Maybe I have forgotten something?

Now it is at this stage that little differences make drastic changes. If you feel that something is “off normal” with your partner – ask them what’s wrong! Well that’s easy enough isn’t it? You where thinking “Shit I do that already!” Yes you probably do, but do you get a reply?

When your partner approaches you and asks do you tell them what’s wrong and risk an argument? Or do you say “Nothing” and carry on as you where?

Well the secret to an argument free relationship is no NEVER say “Nothing” unless you mean it. If you have an issue – get it out in the open as soon as possible. Why? Because that way it wont sit inside and fester until it becomes a huge problem, and if your not raging when you first say it, guess what? No argument.

Sure there will be the odd issue that needs to be kept to yourself because its from outside the home (a secret told to you by a friend for example) and cant be discussed, but still find a way to reassure them that its not them that’s at fault.

That’s it – simples. Try it, you never know….